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Author: Lorentz (---.lsanca.dsl-w.verizon.net)
Date: 05-05-06 22:17
Paco; - Congratulations, you are asking questions at the right stage, which shows, at least that your head is still doing the thinking for you and you have your feelers out. Since Smiling is the resident expert on the U.K. – and I know no details of the specifics for their visas, or if they differ at all from U.S. in any way, I just popped up, since you asked to offer my two cents, ( in U.S. dollars not Euro, so – either way, not worth much, - like all advice perhaps.) and maybe some different perspective. Just so you know,- under such circumstances, folks after having asked for opinion, 99.9% of the time, just go ahead and do what they were already pre-disposed to do before they asked. Ask Smiling.
Your profile says you have been here two months, - especially if you met your 29 year old here, that is not a lot of time to interact, but has been sufficient for you to see her on and converse over a web-cam, (?? ) send some flowers to her home, call her on the phone, give her a good googelling ( as Blaine would say,) and insure yourself as best as you are able to discover both the strength of your feelings and the legitimacy of her expressions of interest in you. – RIGHT ?? ( You have already taken these steps.)
– My point is, that if you have waited only two months, certainly two more would not be unreasonable, if as you say business commitments preclude you from going to meet her, which is – as you must already know, if you have read these threads, the one and only single proper way to approach your interaction, period. – If so busy with busy-ness, you may want to consider how much quality time you can devote to over this time anyway.
“ You must go there to meet her.” – ( after you have taken the steps I listed, which you already have of course,….)
So now that we know that you know the only “right way”, and in spite of knowing this seem intent on doing it the wrong way, - and have posted here to ask about the details and possible in’s and out’s of how to improperly proceed. - Well, if nothing else, should your risk not produce any positive results in return, - at least you will know where not to come and sing a sad song about “scammers.” – Knowing that you are inviting long odds, especially if she sent you both the suggestion and the “proof” – I have made my point.
Hopefully, someone more knowledgeable about the particulars will pop up here and tell you to contact your embassy, fax them what she has faxed you, ask them if they can be paid directly by you for her, send her no money but only an airline ticket that can not be cashed, etc. etc, etc, - but that won’t be me.
As a business man, you must understand that your time is valuable ( thus hesitation or delay in making a trip yourself ?? )- and you should consider the amount of time and energy taken up by all your research into “not getting cheated” may cost you more than just making a wish, sending the money and heading on back to work hoping for the best, - because let’s face it, there is that possibility that she is completely sincere, 100% genuine and you should in that case not poison yourself with all the negative doubt.
A relationship without trust is no relationship of any worth.
Good Luck !! - Lorentz.
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