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Author: Blaine (---.ph.ph.cox.net)
Date: 07-19-05 19:46
Nah--hell I was half in the bag when I wrote that,Paul. It was for no person in particular. But I was inspired. I believe most of relating seriously is dependent on both peoples` emotional maturity levels. And girls definitely mature sooner than boys. Maybe some of it is playing with dolls,having "tea parties",and pretending to " play house" while boys are doing other less domestic activities. It is more true for us of the baby boomers,because little boys used to be made of " snips and snails and puppy dog tails". Now little boys are more about X-box and computers and watching TV. I must add to this that being a practicing drunk or druggie is also a sign of emotional immaturity. How could it not be? It deprives the home of the solid man who is an example to his kids,and to all other kids too. It is pure selfishness. And for the most part young men are selfish too,in thinking only of themselves and their own desires. My daughter is 19 years old and pregnant now from a 20 year old "man" who is not ready to commit to family now that she is pregnant. I have heard and read this same story from many women of the FSU. So,if they are reading this-- young Ivan or Boris or Vlad are the same as Junior. And to take this example a little further,my daughter is having a difficult pregnancy,and had been told by her doctor not to work. I help her as much as I can--but Junior parties and cannot keep a job. She has the whole weight of this pregnancy ( and her other 3 year old child ) on her. She works,pays her own bills,and has just told me that she is also going to pay for a ticket to move Junior back home,where he needs to be with his mama. Pretty mature for a 19 year old girl,huh? It is an old and familiar story which belongs to many people--not just me. Of course there are exceptions. I know a young man who was 19 and got his woman pregnant. He completely devoted himself to her,married her,and at this stage in time they have 3 boys, and are happy together. Some women dream of the beautiful matrimonial life even when they are just young girls. Most boys are not thinking of this. My thinking is that a man is really not a man until he goes down the hard road a few times and has the sh** beat out of him,falls down,then gets back on his feet again. A little wisdom breeds emotional maturity,and I must confess that all I was, until about the age of 30,was a sex machine,and the more women the better. All women young or old,fat or thin,beautiful or homely looking. Black,brown,asian or indian. I was cheated on by a woman I really cared about,and this was one of the best lessons of my life. Being abused and neglected by women also gave me some good lessons. I definitely want to read some other opinions people!! Bash mine if you want,I do not care. I am not too old to learn another lesson,or change my way of thinking. Glad to see this forum is so active right now.. Hey--where is our fair moderator/administrator Natalia now? We have some people advertizing on the forum it seems!! Give them the boot,`Talia !!
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